Telling your kids that mom and dad are getting a divorce can be one of the hardest aspects of the whole situation. It can be hard for them to adjust to the thought of one parent not living at home anymore, and knowing how to broach the subject with your sons can make all the difference in how they accept the news you are telling them and the situation.
Telling Your Sons You Are Getting A Divorce
Make sure you tell them when they are in an environment where they feel comfortable and safe. Avoid having other people in the house or doing it in a place where they are unfamiliar. If possible, have both parents present to answer questions and alleviate any concerns they may have.
This is an emotional time for everyone, so allowing your sons and, by extension, yourselves the time to process this will help them. Try to avoid busy times where they will be expected to go about their daily lives as if nothing has happened. While some kids will feel ok with going about their typical habits, others may need more time at home to process the information and make sense of how they feel about a parent’s divorce.
Try to address the family as a whole simultaneously and then, if required, catch up with each child individually to see how they are feeling and answer any questions they might not have been comfortable sharing in front of others.
If you need any more information about how people handle divorce and what to do next, Spokane Law Group has created an infographic with some statistics surrounding divorce.
Infographic Created By Spodek Law Group Los Angeles
Getting a divorce is never easy for the children or the parents. Reinforce that you both love them very much and will continue to do so, just not together.